The publishing house «Individual» was published in my place. The story of one fracture «. This is an autobiographical story of the former model, and now the TV presenter Evgenia Voskobobinikova, who after the accident ended up in a wheelchair, but did not despair and was able to start life from a clean sheet. How she succeeded, Evgenia told Psychologies.
I am often asked how I learned to live again, how I accepted what happened to me. I have no answer in the style of «10 ways to survive a terrible tragedy». But something became clear in the course of work on the book “In my place. The story of one fracture «. I had to survive all the most difficult moments of my life, and then look at them from the side.
About Me
I was born and raised in Voronezh. I was 18 when I was noticed at the local modeling agency. I started acting for magazines, for advertising, going to the podium in different cities of Russia, collect prizes at beauty contests.
I had fee, beautiful things, boyfriends, I just started flying around the world, discovering gorgeous resorts for myself. At 21 I believed that the world at my feet and the main thing I already received. I was going to connect life with a loved one who lived in London. But fate ordered otherwise.
After the night club, my friends and I got into the car with our friend, who was not very sober. Any person who committing any acts is sure that everything will be fine. This may happen to someone, but not with me. In fact, everything is different.
An accident on a slippery road, an ambulance, an urgent 4-hour operation, the verdict of doctors: a spinal fracture with damage to the spinal cord. And a wheelchair.
Adoption
In rehabilitation centers, a marvelous new world of strollers opened me. Guys, hello, how did you get here? Who are you at all? I think that they, those who were nearby in difficult times and in the same unenviable position, helped me accept what happened.
One guy told me: “Zhenya, life passes. And you earn corns in senseless training. Switch!»And to my surprise, I obeyed him. Returned to her home to Voronezh. And decided to learn how to live at all costs.
Independence
After a year of muffling at hospitals, I asked my mother to accompany me anywhere else. I wanted her to slowly return to her life. If you fall into dependence on who pushes the stroller, you will never begin to live on your own again.
Everything had to be studied. As my friend of Sveta says: “Imagine that you are moving from earth to Mars. It seems you are the same, but everything is different around «.
There are no ramps in the city, not only in the entrance, but even nowhere else. In any institution, premises, institution, it is impossible to get to a person in a stroller
Even brushing your teeth was a problem: it is impossible to enter a narrow bathroom in a stroller without outside help. In the kitchen also do not turn around.
There are no ramps in the city, not only in the entrance, but even nowhere else. It is impossible to get into a person, a premises, an institution in the city in a stroller. I immediately begin to feel that you are not happy anywhere, you are a burden. I wanted to close in four walls and not stick out.
Family
Everyone rallied around me: mom, dad, brother. Mom at work was given an unlimited vacation so that she was engaged in me. In one of the terrible hospitals where I had to lie, my mother, barely looking around, immediately cheerfully stated: “Well, Zhenya! Where ours did not disappear «. With such a mood, we tried to experience the most difficult moments. Relatives helped in everything physically and morally.
They always believed in me. When I was invited to work on the Rain channel, first my mother went to Moscow, and after a few years dad joined us. And then his brother and his family moved. And now they are engaged in my daughter while I’m on the air. The whole family watch me on TV.
Believe in yourself
Belief in himself for a person with disabilities is probably the most difficult point. At first, old habits helped me. I always liked to look good. I loved to spend time in front of the mirror, paint, do manicure, styling.
Even chose the stroller, first of all, a beautiful. Then I still did not know what kind
of functions to pay attention to, and ordered a red stroller. I tried to paint my world purely technically: I had many pink costumes. And my friends acquired during rehabilitation, I also taught to protect myself, delight myself, take care of myself, they say, girls, we are still wow.
Barriers
The history of the model that has an accident and now sits in his Voronezh in a wheelchair, caused a resonance. A path of journalists from the central channels did not overgrow me to me. During all these interviews, a certain artistry was required.
I quickly got used to the role, I knew what and how to say, when to shut up and significantly look into the distance. At that time I was in a stroller for three years. Then I met my first psychologist in the rehabilitation center «Overcoming».
After the accident I thought that they could never love me. But now I know that this is not so. It’s hard to trust, but still I do it. Sometimes I am mistaken. And who is insured from the wrong choice?
Daria Andreevna noticed how much I got used to the role in the victim. And she gave me the idea: “If you feel so well for everyone in sight, maybe you go to work on television?»I could not imagine this. The more I thought about it, the more I did not understand how Daria Andreevna could offer this. I am disabled, and on television?
Soon it began to reach me: but I myself am dividing these barriers. I say this to myself: “Zhenya, you never work on TV. Look at yourself at your stroller. Sit at home!»
Job
I really was in sight. If some socially significant issue was discussed in the media, I was asked to comment. Then it even began to seem to me that I am the only person with disabilities who publicly commented on our situation. Once I was invited on the air of «Silver Rain». My friends and I went to Moscow. Yes, I forgot to say that I learned to drive a car. This is a point about independence.
I went on the radio, on the air to Irina Hakamad. We talked about how to live if everything broke. This broadcast was heard by Natalya Sindeeva. She then built a new television channel, she liked what and how I said. And she asked me to come to the casting. It has changed my life.
I learned to speak in a new way for months, repeated tongue twisters in traffic jams, I had to understand how to stay in the frame, sit evenly, shoot, mount, take comments, make news. Every day I went into battle, every evening it seemed to me that I could no longer. But then a new day came, and there was no way back. I coped. Now I can say that. I did it.
Love
But read about personal life better in the book. It is difficult to tell again. In short, I got married, gave birth to a marrusa daughter, divorced. In an interview, I am often asked about relations with people with disabilities. Here the question is who you see. Me? Or a person with disabilities?
Yes, I remember how after the accident I thought that they could never love me. But now I know that this is not so. And I can love. It is very difficult to trust, but still I do it. Sometimes I am mistaken. And who is insured from the wrong choice?
Live here and now
What have I learned over the years? Rejoice constantly. Everything is fine. In the spring, the kidneys on the trees bloom, there are interesting people around, I have Maroussia, mom and dad, favorite business, ahead of a lot of adventure. If my experience helps someone, I will be glad. For this, the book was written. Someone even called her an antidepressant book. There is even something to laugh at.
She is not terrible, honestly. Living and rejoice is what I came to. Everything is fragile. The world is fragile. We are fragile. I don’t want to waste time, I want to live and enjoy life.